Kaye Flack

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3 Reasons Why the Word NO Builds Millionaires !!

This week I received an email from one of my mentors, Doug Firebaugh with this title “The 3 Reasons Why the Word NO Builds Millionaires” Boy did this title grab my attention since I have often struggled with the word “NO” also I know the word “NO” has impacted many of my colleagues in business. We have allowed this powerful two-letter word “NO” to stop and paralyze us from moving forward, today it was a matter of discussion in our Empowered Tribe Tuesday Call
However Doug shares that “NO” is an amazing business tool. (I don’t know about you but I’m into finding tools that work !! Aren’t you?) A tool that builds millionaires !!! SO let look at why would anyone LOVE that word “NO” ?
Doug’s 3 Reasons were:

• NO forces you to GROW.
• NO creates a DECISION Position.
• YES catalyzes the paycheck- the word NO determines the amount.

Most people do not like the word NO. I LOVE the word NO. WHY? By Doug Firebaugh ©

I have found that it is the greatest business building tool for ANY business and it helps you in many ways that most people are not aware of. It is also the greatest force for producing millionaires in business. WOW! Now THAT is a re-framing of something! NO’s are the secret to millionaires? Yep. Millionaires have figured out a secret that most have not. The word NO literally costs you NOTHING if you get one. Zip. Nada. Zilch.

How?  Why not ask every person you know to listen to you and your message?

Even if they say NO you still end up with what you started with! You have lost NOTHING! And on top of that- the word NO has tremendous VALUE for your  success in your business.
There are so many reasons why NO is a powerful word for success- but here are three reasons why that it will help you create more enduring success than YES will.

1) The word NO FORCES YOU to GROW.

You have no choice. You MUST grow bigger than the word NO or you will never move past it. NO forces you to GROW- or GO. Either you grow more powerful than the emotional impact the word has- or you will GO the way of everyone else who has been stopped by it. NO is nothing more than an opinion or a question. It is an opinion because many folks assume the wrong thing and say NO or it is a person’s way to position them for asking a question. AND if you do not GROW past the NO- you will never move past where you are in life today. NO means “Next One” and move on to getting closer to a YES.

2) The word NO creates a DECISION Position.

YOU have to make a decision with the word NO. You must decide- “Do I let it stop me- or do I embrace it as what it is- an opinion- and not be emotionally influenced by it?”    ALL success starts with DECISION and most never decide in life.

They choose… and then change their mind.. NO forces you to decide to either keep going and move past it or keep letting it be a barrier to all success. Let’s be REAL- no one is crazy about the word NO - but it is MORE important to success than YES is . WHAT?????? Yep. It not only puts you in a position that you MUST decide on how you are going to respond to it, but also will help you develop the habit of making decisions- the TRUE mark of a leader and a success -soaked winner.

3) The word YES catalyzes the paycheck- the word NO determines the Amount.
READ THAT AGAIN! YES creates the paycheck process and the ability for everyone to get paid. NOTHING happens until something is SOLD. It starts the ball rolling, and in any business or home business, it is what people focus on and long to hear. But the word NO GROWS your skill set and abilities.
Every NO grows you a little stronger, makes you a little better, makes you a little more focused, makes you a lot more aware of the word YES. NO helps you like weight lifting does.

The emotional weight of the word NO forces you to LIFT OFF the impact and makes you stronger in every conversation, every presentation, and every sponsoring effort.
It is your SKILL SET that has the most bearing on your results, but NO sharpens your skill set like a fine-edged knife sharpener and gets you ready to slice through every negative effortlessly.
The word YES creates the paycheck but the word NO will always determine the amount.
And what will always determine the success you have is the determination and skill set you have combined with effective actions- all grown, improved and enlarged by the word NO.
Use this formula:- YES = CREATE and NO = $$$

Plain and simple. How many NO’s a person gets will determine the success that person gets or does not get. If you get a LOT of NO’s- you are going to get a LOT of YES’s as well. Never fear the word NO. Love it. Embrace it. Look at it as an ATM machine and it is there for your usage. If YOU control the impact the word NO has on you…you will control the impact your paycheck will have on your bank account.

Its interesting as Doug has explained so simply and powerfully that the word NO FORCES YOU to GROW. At the moment I am in very high pressure 90-day goal and I’m taking massive action. After reading this and working through my next action steps, its interesting to observe all the emotions and fear I have around the word “NO”. So, am I going to be crippled by the word NO? Does it force me into a position to make a decision even to declare where I stand with my business? … In not making a decision I’m actually choosing!! Powerful stuff guys. So in choosing and declaring, I’m pushing through bringing on the YES that is the catalyst to my journey. And what will determine my paycheck? It excites me to think that the No’s determine the amount !!!

Share your perceptions around the word ” NO” and how you have solved the issue in building your business or just facing life.

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Today we have many challenges in OUR economy. Business owners are faced with the challenge “to adapt…… or get out of business” as the business landscape has changed and is continuing to change at a rapid race !!  The future is looking dreadful for some good folks.  No longer do you have to be a morbid pessimist to  face the prospect of a future that is marked by scarcity. Will I have enough to secure my future? With investments failing, housing prices falling, retirement strategies are pushed out for another 5 years in the hope that things will improve, people are looking for HOPE.  Some brave souls refuse to be victims to the circumstances and are looking for solutions. Maybe they can’t solve the economic woes of the world, but they are victors – not victims – and are determined to do what they can to change their life! Within my sphere of influence there has been a huge increase in people establishing businesses and working online. But I also see that the online life of many folks is short-lived.  For most people just keeping up with the change can cause your head to spin!

Whether we are in a bricks and mortar business- like retail, service, etc, or home based business (networking or affiliate marketing), or direct sales, we require certain skills and knowledge to embrace these changes. Sometimes it’s easy to become overwhelmed with so much information around. However there is support and help for us to assist us on our journey to discover what is best for US…Jim Rohn said, ” If we want things change, we must change“.

These are five steps that I have worked through to establish my online success.

1. Discover what is your WHY and Passion?

By determining your true intention for yourself or your business this will establish the result firmly in your sight!  What do you love to do? What’s your passion? What do you love talking about and not care whether you are paid or not? Understanding these things will determine what you will create online. What passions energize your heart when you pick up the phone to deal with the next client?  Never forget that what your heart feels, you communicate.  If your heart is energized by genuine interest in your client, they know. How do people pick up whether we are worth listening to? How will they determine whether they will read beyond the headlines of our blog? Fear communicates uncertainty, poor self worth… distrust , greed…..arrogance and self interest. These powerful emotions are communicated, not in the words you speak necessarily, but in the non-verbal, the intonations, the rate and flow of your communication. The same is true in your online presence. Bob Burg & John Mann , in their book ” The Go-Giver” develops this first of five core values: ” The most valuable gift you have is to offer yourself”, sowhat are you offering?

2. Connect with Successful People to Develop Influence

Look to establish or connect to a network of people who are already successful. We call these Social Media Alliances “ tribes” or “communities who add value” . A tribe can be of immense practical value where you can leverage knowledge and skills, and are kept up to speed with changes happening online or in your industry. But I think the greater value is in developing influence. A tribe can create opportunities for accountability and masterminding. Interacting with the tribe is like looking in a mirror to identify the marks of our passion and character. Second core value:  ”Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place others’ interests first”.    For example with the Empowered Tribe where one of the benefits of the community is Tribe Tuesday where we get together in a small groups to connect and build community by syndicating blogs and supporting each other this is powerful way to assist you move forward.

3. Develop an Online Strategy

Develop a mindset and a strategy not only to create an asset by building a residual income, but leaving a legacy. It’s creating a life of significance. “The Go-Giver” third core value: ” Your income will be determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them”. My screen-saver is a picture of fireworks over Sydney Harbour.  Those fireworks create a spectacular display of noise and beauty, but afterwards..all that is left is just a charred tube and a lot of smoke, and even the smoke doesn’t hang around for long…… not unlike some internet marketers I have known.

4. Be Real and Add Value

Understand what you are creating online is all about adding value to whoever you connect with.  The proverb, “Give and it shall be GIVEN to you” is demonstrated in the “Go-Giver” statement, ” Your true worth is determined but how much more you give in value than you take in payment”.

5. Be Abundant

Develop a mindset of abundance that affects every action and attitude. If your security and worth are determined by money……how much is enough to put your security beyond doubt?   Abundance is about more than tangible assets.  Life is about complementing ( collaboration) not competition. “The Go Giver’s” last core value sums it up ” The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving”

Building an online presence is a  microcosm of  your life journey.  You will never rise higher than your character.  So find your niche with all the challenges. Take the next step of the journey. Be stretched and by that means GROW, oh, and by the way….bloom where you’re planted.   Its an exciting time to be online and be connected to amazing group of people who have an abundant mindset to share and assist you succeed. Thanks to all my mentors, Scott Scales, Kary Rogney, Ken Pickard, Bob Burg Doug Firebaugh Without your input, I wouldn’t be the person I am, and I wouldn’t have the online presence I have.

Please take the time to leave a comment about your online journey and what has been assisted you to create success. Please sign up for my 5 video series as I share in a little more information how you can enjoy success online

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Thank you for taking the time to stop to read my new blog post. I appreciate all my family, friends, my empowered tribe, mastermind group, online  marketers, and people just curious to check out what this blog really is  all about !!!   Please take time to share your thoughts in response.

Over the past few weeks I have been reading Everyone Communicates Few Connect by John C Maxwell. Every page has so many gems to explore. I resonate with the author. John says “If you want to succeed you must learn how to connect with people, and while it may seem like some are born with it, the fact is anyone can learn how to make every communication an opportunity for a powerful connection”.

John explores and shares five principles and five practices to develop the crucial skill of connecting

1. Finding a common ground

2. Keeping your communication simple

3. Capturing people’s interest

4. Inspiring people

5. Staying authentic in all your relationships

 

ONLY ONE THING STANDS BETWEEN YOU AND SUCCESS…..
IT ISNT EXPERIENCE……IT ISNT TALENT

…Its  the ability to connect with others is a major determining factor in reaching your full potential. It’s no secret! Connecting is a skill you can learn and apply in your personal professional and family relationships and you can start now.”

These principles are foundational to our success and when my friend Scott Scales shared a new tool with me a few weeks ago there was major convergence happening because it brought the power of connection to another level .

WOW this is really exciting as this new social media video platform Talk Fusion is being launched globally June 21st 2010. As a friend Glyna Humm stated in her blog post “ It’s  a GAME CHANGER” .   This is all about connecting with people in a way that nothing else can.

Can you imagine a salesman trying to sell TV’s that show only the subtitling and not the picture…ludicrous!  So why would we ever imagine that text emails are the standard for communication?

The possibilities are endless as this innovative technology changes the way in which we connect with our families, friends, clients, business associates and teams, peers.

Our online culture is suffering from email-overwhelm.   However those who take the time to really connect with you in  some unique way, whether face-to-face, phone, mail, cards, email, photos, Skype, social media and video will never be forgotten, even if you lose contact. You will never forget how they made you feel !!

These are the people you share with, laugh with, listen to, support, celebrate together, do business with, and even joint venture with. Bob Burg said it in The Go-Giver, “ All things being equal people will do business with, refer business to , people they know, like and trust”. The power of the connection you have with people opens the door to do business, whether business of the heart, or market-place business.

Take some time to have a look at Talk Fusion. It maybe serendipity  (finding something you weren’t even aware you were looking for) to take your marketing to the next level, or to support you to reconnect with your family or team.

My friend Scott Scales has detailed how you can implement this into your social media marketing strategy.   Also Chris McCargar shared how his 84 year-old dad got excited, as he saw even he could send a video birthday greeting to his grand-daughter.

So no matter who you are, the power of video is a powerful tool to really connect and keep connected with people.

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Why does the Empowered Tribe Culture ROCK?        IS IT WORTH PROTECTING???

The Empowered tribe is “the place to be”. It has been created by peers as a powerful business model for our modern online businesses.  Being connected as part of the Empowered Tribe has been a wonderful as we have experienced a culture that is quite unique.

 It’s a TRIBAL culture where it’s about being connected, with care on every level, and through this connection engaging support with like-minded marketers where many benefits are received.   Its a real “Go- Giver” Culture!!!  Personally what has left a lasting impression is that the community/tribe culture its honoring, encouraging and uplifting, serving, with a generous spirit.  It’s about building and adding value into people’s lives.

Some people find it hard to understand what all the buzz is  being apart of the tribe! The syndication and masterminding together build real synergy and team work. This truly is a “Go-Giver” Culture. Lets explore what is this culture and is it worth protecting
 

What is a Go-Giver culture?

1. The Law of Value
Your true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you give in payment.
2 The Law of Compensation
Your Income will be determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.
3 The Law of Influence
Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place others’ interests first
4. The law of Authenticity
The most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself.
5. The Law of Receptivity
The Key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.

 Read Bob Burgs book ” The Go-Giver” &” The Go-Giver Sells ” for an indepth discovery of these principles.

These five principles are foundational to the Empowered Tribe’s culture. As the tribe has shown the power of a new strategic way to promote each other and connect on Social Media that creates a buzz around our content and blogs called “Syndication”. The tribe’s goal is to show marketers on Social Media how the new professional marketers are doing business and how they can benefit being apart of this culture.

Is This Culture worth protecting?   What do you think as a Tribe member?

In the community it’s been wonderful to build relationships with people around the world from all different cultures, background, and businesses. It’s been an honor and privilege to be mentored and learning from everyone within the Empowered Tribe.

However I don’t know about you and maybe its only me  who is a little concerned when I see behavior from some bloggers who use blogs as a platform and a sounding board for their pet peeve, also denigrating anything that is new and not completely understood !!!

Is value being added to people’s lives? Are people empowered and encouraged to make choices that are best for them? Does this epitomize the “Go-Giver Culture/community”?   

SO IS THIS CULTURE WORTH PROTECTING??? 

Please share you thoughts as I believe it’s VERY important to protect the Empowered Tribe culture that has been created by our leaders and fellow tribe members for our future tribe members. “ The GO-GIVER Culture” is a must for us to adopt.It doesn’t make us doormats or robots but empowers us to make the real difference to the online world and to our networks.
There are always people who are unable to see or comprehend that those five “ Go Giver”  laws encompass so much about our attitudes our influence, the value we add, our abundance our integrity, and being open to receive..

Thank you to Kary Rogney, Ken Pickard, Nick Logan Jon Alfredsson  and Michael Feil  for showing the way and establishing the Empowered Tribe and by protecting the culture is a way of honoring what you have created, also honoring everyone in the community. .

Please share your thoughts also steps you believe we can adopt to protect the culture of the tribe.

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Marvelous May Madness !!!    

Am I truly mad?I am committing to writing a blog every day for the month of May.

I find it hard to believe that over a third of the year has gone. Time really can slip through our fingers.

So why commit to writing a blog every day? This is my opportunity to develop this new skill set through accelerated learning, disciplining my time, and action.
I’ve been wanting to talk about leadership accountability, passion, wellness, spirituality.

The Tribe communities Unified Tribe and the Empowered Tribe,also the 7Figure Networker I am  involved with have been a wonderful encouragement  as I am learning so much because these guys have gone before and are willing to share what they have learned and continually add value.       So I’ll share some of the journey and the things I’ve learned from them.

Starting tomorrow : Buying fresh, are you committed to buying fresh?

Take time to comment and share your thoughts.

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